CHOOSING A LIFE OF LOVE

By Kim Chambers - September 14, 2003

           

 

Good Morning!   Back in the spring when Bruce said he was going to be away today, I asked if I could preach.  I thought it would be a great way to spend this day for two reasons, first because I truly love being here and second, at 7:23 this morning, I turned 50 years old. What a great way to spend my birthday!

 

 

 Harold Kushner quotes the following line from a poem on aging. It says:

 “I look at the young in all their grace and beauty/and all I can think of is brown-and-serve rolls/before they are cooked.”  It is true that I have reached that half-century mark – and I may not be as young as I used to be, but I’ve grown, grown to realize that I am

not at an end, but at a new and different beginning.  I choose to call it, “My Second Middle Age”.  The promise of a different kind of breakthrough in life, to find the ‘Fountain of Age’.

 

Whether I want to raft down a river, volunteer to mentor a young person, or widen my knowledge in any number of new ways, my life course has great prospects for continued vitality. So, when I started hearing all the ‘old age’ jokes, I just decided to sit back and enjoy them.  Comments like:  “Better not buy any green bananas” or “Everything is downhill after 50” (but I don’t remember reaching the top of the hill!), and this is the best one, “I heard happy hour is now a nap”.  I told them they can say all they want, but I’m here to tell you now – I’m not cooked by any means, a least not yet, any way!!!

 

 

Ultimately it’s just another season of life. I appreciate more and more that time passes very quickly and to savor it.   As some of you know, a while back, I was diagnosed with cancer.  It will be nine years ago next month.  As I look back upon that experience of nine years ago, I would not exchange what I learned from it, for all the things in the world.  If affected my outlook on life.  I’m VERY happy to be 50!  Would I have said that if not for my experience?  I really can’t say for sure, but I have chosen to positively look forward.  Sometimes though, as I look back, as we all look back to those different times in our lives, 5, 10,15, 20 years ago and see how those experiences affected us, I’m sure we can many a time find that God’s hand has touched our lives – trusting our future to Him.  That’s the value of true faith.

 

Being 50, though, feels different – maybe it is supposed to because of all that has preceded it.  What we learn – the changes we make.  We have weathered many of the ups and downs that life offers, which now can bring a better perspective to what can realistically be expected in the coming years.  A future in the ‘Second Middle Age’ may even be more fun than the first one. It’s a newly constructed stage that’s been discovered by everyone from automobile designers to travel agents to manufacturers of exercise equipment. We have also reached a stage when the children are out on their own, (yes, it does happen – to some extent any way), and thanks to new techniques we can compensate more for health losses than in the past from corrective surgeries, joint  replacements,  to more aids in vision and hearing and newer drug therapies.

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 The list goes on and on.  One of the things I’ve discovered for myself is that now that I’m 50 – I’m more inclined to speak my mind – some say, it’s finding your voice. Not afraid to speak up – to say what we’re feeling, thinking and believing.  We have learned a ‘boldness’  -energies, better skills, better judgments, creative ideas we didn’t realize we possessed - those latent powers within us that now can be unleashed.  There is a fairly new ‘society’ that has come about in the past several years and is gaining great momentum.   It’s a group of women who are living out this ‘Fountain of Age’.   It’s called the ‘Red Hat Society”.  These women wear red hats with purple dresses in public. They wear white shoes after Labor Day. They laugh loudly in public.  These 50 – something and older, much older women, have organized 3000 chapters now in North America.  After a lifetime of following the rules, these women figured they’ve earned the right to dress gaudily if they want to.  It’s a way of laughing at mid-life and beyond.  You can join if you’re under 50, but you have to wear a pink and lavender outfits until you have you’re 50th birthday.  From a book called:  “When I am an Old Woman, I Shall Wear Purple”, the following poem is their motto:

 

 

                                                 WARNING

WHEN I AM AN OLD WOMAN I SHALL WEAR PURPLE

WITH A RED HAT WHICH DOESN’T GO, AND DOESN’T SUIT ME.

AND I SHALL SPEND MY PENSION ON BRANDY AND SUMMER GLOVES

AND SATIN SANDALS, AND SAY WE’VE NO MONEY FOR BUTTER.

I SHALL SIT DOWN ON THE PAVEMENT WHEN I’M TIRED

AND GOBBLE UP SAMPLES IN SHOPS AND PRESS ALARM BELLS

AND RUN MY STICK ALONG THE PUBLIC RAILINGS

AND MAKE UP FOR THE SOBRIETY OF MY YOUTH.

I SHALL GO OUT IN MY SLIPPERS IN THE RAIN

AND PICK THE FLOWERS IN OTHER’S PEOPLE’S GARDENS

AND LEARN TO SPIT.

 

YOU CAN WEAR TERRIBLE SHIRTS AND GROW MORE FAT

AND EAT THREE POUNDS OF SAUSAGES AT A GO

OR ONLY BREAD AND PICKLES FOR A WEEK

AND HOARD PENS AND PENCILS AND BEERMATS AND THINGS IN BOXES.

 

BUT NOW WE MUST HAVE CLOTHES THAT KEEP US DRY

AND PAY OUR RENT AND NOT SWEAR IN THE STREET

AND SET A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR THE CHILDREN.

WE MUST HAVE FRIENDS TO DINNER AND READ THE PAPERS.

 

BUT MAYBE I OUGHT TO PRACTICE A LITTLE NOW?

SO PEOPLE WHO KNOW ME ARE NOT TOO SHOCKED AND SURPIRSED

WHEN SUDDENDLY I AM OLD, AND START TO WEAR PURPLE.

 

I can just imagine what those meeting are like!

 

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So, maybe for me, as a woman and for that matter, the same for a man- finding and using our voice is one of the things we all, sooner or later, need to do.  For some it may require being 50.  But not for Peter.

 

In today’s reading from the Gospel of Mark, Peter found his voice– voicing his declaration of faith – declaring loud and clear that Jesus is the Christ.   Jesus now says it’s time. He chooses this to be the time requiring his disciples to step up to and say what they believe, what the true Messiah is all about, and what to expect. First he tells them they can’t tell anyone who He is.  Second, He tells them he is the Son of Man and that he is to suffer many things.  He continues on and tells them He must be killed and then He will rise from the dead after three days. Tough things to hear and even tougher to understand – but Peter still stepped forward – blurting out “You are the Christ” and not caring what others thought.

 

 

And then, the education, the learning began.  Peter and the other disciples had to learn what the meaning of the Messiahship is.  No wonder He has to re-educate His disciples what the meaning of the Messiahship is.  No wonder they would have to crucify Him in the end – there is no room for a cross and there is little room for suffering and love in a picture like that.  So when Jesus connected Messiahship with suffering and death – they were astonished and resistant. But that did not get them off the hook.   It was time to speak up, but not stop learning and growing - And it always involves a choice we make.  To believe this, rather than that.  To think this way, rather that that way.  To act in this manner, rather than that manner. To say that we love but not sure of where our limits are.  “Choices” – to choose the way of the cross rather than the way of privilege and power.  To choose the narrow gate rather than the wide gate.  To build on rock or build on sand.

 

But let’s face it, most of our choices are not written out on paper or etched in stone or even spoken aloud.  Some are well planned while others are sprung on us at a moment’s notice. “That Moment of Choice” as they say.   What do I do now?   Either way, the  potential is there for them to have significant impacts on our lives and other’s, as well.    

 

 

In Max Lucado’s book “I Chose the Nails” he writes the following story about the choices we make- how they can affect our lives and the lives

of others.

 

Meet Edwin Thomas, a master of the stage.  During the latter half of the 1800’s, this small man with the huge voice had few rivals.  Debuting in Richard III at the age of fifteen, he quickly established himself as a premier Shakespearean actor.  In New York he performed Hamlet for one hundred consecutive nights.  In London he won the approval of the tough British critics.  When it came to tragedy on the stage, Edwin Thomas was in a select group.

 

When it came to tragedy in life, the same could be said as well.  Edwin has two brothers, John and Junius.  Both were actors, although neither rose to his stature.  In 1863, the three siblings united their talents to perform Julius Caesar.  The fact that Edwin’s brother John took the role of Brutus was an eerie forerunner of what awaited the brothers – and the nation – two years later.                        –3-

 

For this John who played the assassin in Julius Caesar is the same John who took the role of assassin in Ford’s Theater.  On a crisp April night in 1865, he stole quietly into the rear of a box in the Washington Theater and took the life of Abraham Lincoln.  Yes, the last name of the brothers was Booth – Edwin Thomas Booth and John Wilkes Booth.

 

Edwin was never the same after that night.  Shame from his brother’s crime drove him into retirement.  He might never have returned to stage had it not been for a twist of fate at a New Jersey train station.  Edwin was awaiting his coach when a well-dressed young man, pressed by the crowd, lost his footing and fell between the platform and a moving train.  Without hesitation, Edwin locked a leg around a railing, grabbed the man, and pulled him to safety.  After the sighs of relief, the young man recognized the famous Edwin Booth.

 

Edwin, however, didn’t recognize the young man he’d rescued.  That knowledge came weeks later in a letter, a letter he carried in his pocket to the grave.  A letter from General Adams Budeau, chief secretary to General Ulysses S. Grant.  A letter thanking Edwin Booth for saving the life of the child of an American hero, Abraham Lincoln.  How ironic that while one brother killed the president, the other brother saved the president’s son.  The boy Edwin Booth yanked to safety?  Robert Todd Lincoln.

 

Edwin and John Booth.  Same father, same mother, same profession, and same passion – yet one chooses life, the other doesn’t.    How could it happen?  I don’t know, but it does.  Though their story is dramatic, it’s not unique.

Abel and Cain, both sons of Adam.  Abel chooses God.  Cain doesn’t.   And God lets him.

David and Saul, both kings of Israel.  David chooses God.  Saul doesn’t.  And God lets him.

Peter and Judas, both deny their Lord.  Peter seeks mercy.  Judas seeks death.  And God lets him.

 

 

 

In every age of history, on every page of Scripture, the truth is revealed: God allows us to make our own choice.  And no one portrays this more than Jesus.  Peter is the only one with the guts to speak - to call Jesus the Messiah but then stumbles over its interpretation and meaning, but at least he spoke up and declared his faith.

 

 

 

And that’s what is important for us too – we must not hesitate saying yes with our own voice.  Not worried about how the world hears us or what people think or whether we have everything right!   God’s love for us and the freedom He gives us to make choices in our lives is one of the greatest gifts He has to give. In today’s world, we see people every day who appear broken.  Some may seem beyond repair: the homeless, the inmate, the greedy business executive who always wants more. We have the opportunity each and every day to show our co-workers, friends and family what we choose to believe and to whom we commit ourselves and to follow that “YES” with an openness to Christ’s suffering and pain and the world.

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 Tony Campollo, a spiritual writer known for many humorous stories, also writes wonderful insights and he writes this definition of Christianity for us: He says and I quote, “We have to allow God to become a living presence in our lives.  To be possessed by Christ in such a way that feelings, thoughts and attitudes are all changed.  Loving becomes a spiritual exercise.  God wants to infect your consciousness but above all is His desire to be able to reach other people through you.  By choosing Him to dwell in your heart, you will little by little begin to relate to other people as He would relate to them.”

And that’s the life Jesus was calling his disciples into – there, on that day when Peter stopped him.  Jesus wants us to relate to and care for one another just as He would!   It’s time for us to say yes and begin!

 

 

 

Let me finish up with a cute story:

 

Many years ago a preacher decided to sell his mountain trail horse.  A prospective buyer was impressed with the animal’s skill and obedience.  Before they agreed on a price the preacher said, “I must warn you he only responds to spiritual commands.  To get the horse moving you say, ‘Praise the Lord,’ and ‘Stop’ is Hallelujah. 

 

“I’ve been around horses all my life,” said the buyer.” And I’ve never heard of such a thing.”  Mounting the horse, he said skeptically, “Praise the Lord.”  And the horse broke into a gallop.  Suddenly the buyer realized a cliff was dead ahead.  Frantically he yelled, “Hallelujah,” and they came to a stop a foot from the edge.  Wiping the sweat from his brow, the buyer said, “Praise the Lord!”

 

 

Let us say “Hallelujah” and “Praise the Lord” in our lives. Stopping to reaffirm from time to time that Jesus is our Christ and with a “Praise the Lord” – take that leap of faith - getting on with living as He calls us.

 

Amen

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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